How To Get Unstuck
Lube.
It actually makes sense. Lube.
I asked a question on Facebook yesterday to see what all the Facebook gurus would say. The comment section went bananas. Humans love to give opinions. Everyone is an expert on Facebook.
The question I asked…
How do you get unstuck when you are stuck?
So far there are 40 comments. Eight of them are lube.
I work with a lot of people who are stuck. Or rather, think they are stuck. I think it is impossible to be stuck but let’s not get into physics.
Perhaps, stuck means a lack of clarity on the way forward. Perhaps stuck means trapped in a job or life you do not enjoy. Perhaps being stuck is being locked away in prison, having a shitty mindset, or being addicted to porn, weed, and pizza.
Find some lube.
What is lube? The dictionary says…
the act of putting lubricant on the moving parts of a vehicle
Lube is something that gets the moving parts moving again. You need to get moving again.
Some of the comments on my Facebook:
· Meditation
· Release expectations
· Emotional rehire
· Call a friend
· Action. Do something. Anything.
· Travel
Then what? Then what do we do? Will it fix it forever? Eh.
Here is a comment from my buddy Joey who is both right and left-brained, has great hair, and never sits still. He is a powerful coach, entrepreneur, and guitar player:
Journal
Sweat
Volunteer
Gratitude inventory
Call three friends that are big fans and talk.
Walk the Beltline, make eye contact, and say hello (out loud) to everyone you pass.
Here is another one from my buddy Lee who is an overachiever, adrenaline junky, and tech nerd who built and sold software companies:
I feel like a terrorist in a room full of Buddhists. But my approach is a little different.
Pick the smallest, tightest, most finite corner you can find. Get irrationally determined and singularly focused to achieve the smallest of gains. And then start kicking f’ing ass. Don’t sleep, don’t relent and don’t accept anything but absolute domination and victory over infinitesimal gains over until you find yourself far from your starting place. Then look back SEE your progress. Celebrate your determination. Then see if you can get twice as tenacious about the next tiny gain. Before you know it, you’ll be back in the hunt towards your overall goals. Not as Zen as meditation and spiritual exploration, but nothing gets shit done quite like relentless, obsessive tenacity. And nothing feels better and is more motivating than looking back and seeing the distance you’ve put between you and what once felt impossible. Success begets success. So, stop looking at the mountain and start looking one step ahead and absolutely dominate that one step. If you can make one step, then you must be able to do that again.
And finally, one from Stacy:
Put wood under your wheel.
I think there is something else …
Routine.
Routine gets us out of our minds. Routine doesn’t give a shit about our feelings. Routine could care less about the victim story we tell ourselves or the temperature outside.
Routine says do this, every day, over and over regardless of what you think, how you feel, or if it’s raining.
Put on your shoes, go outside, and run. Repeat tomorrow.
Sit down, shut up, close your eyes, and breathe for 10 minutes. Repeat tomorow.
Wake up at 6 am, say a prayer, do a pushup. Repeat tomorrow.
To get unstuck, design a routine. Commit to the routine. Become obsessed with consistency. Celebrate the daily micro wins.
Create, Commit, Consistent, Celebration.
The fastest way to change is to design a daily workout routine that includes lifting heavy weights (male and female). The second is to design a morning routine that is a minimum hour long. The third is to design a connection routine to engage with other humans.
I spend the first three hours of the day doing a routine that gets me to baseline. I walk outside, drink 32 ounces of room temperature spring water, do a 10 minute guided breathwork meditation, and do my creative journaling for one hour.
What’s your routine?
Trey
P.S. If you need some help getting unstuck, jump in my next 30 Day program that starts on Monday. I have designed this to create routine, discipline, accountability, fun, and connection. At the end of 30 days, you will see clearly again. You will be a different person. You will have the motivation and be proud of yourself again. If not, I’ll send you a free bottle of cotton candy-flavored lube.
