DATING IN QUARANTINE
I hosted a Zoom call for my 30-Day Adventure group Wednesday night. We raised a glass and toasted to life. Then we talked about dating for an hour. Everybody hates dating.
Well, except for my buddy Garrett (not his real name, well, maybe his real name) who LOVES dating. He went on around 150 dates in one year. The thought of 150 dates in one year makes me want to cut off my feet.
There were ten of us on the Zoom video. Oddly, only the singles from the group joined last night. Noticing it was just singles, I decided to sip on bourbon and talk about love. I love talking about love. I also love bourbon.
One girl explained she doesn’t want to deal with a relationship right now. Another said she is about to go nuts and is working her Hinge account to death. One guy is terrified and others had mixed feelings. A few got really quiet.
Dating is a funny thing. It is scary and exciting, fun and not fun. It can be as awkward as ocean worms or as easy as sneezing. The first date is full of uncomfortable feelings and anxiety (unless you are a complete narcist and lack human emotion). We are forced to be vulnerable, risk rejection, and potentially suffer through hours of a boring conversations and below average jokes. However, sometimes sparks fly and the conversation is effortless. That’s the bee’s knees.
I think the quarantine has been the greatest thing to happen to dating. It cuts out the bullshit and forces us to do what we are supposed to do on a date, talk.
In quarantine, we have been forced to date digitally via Facetime, Zoom, or the old fashion phone call. That leaves us with one option. Talk to each other.
We have to learn about each other and figure out if there is chemistry. We get to determine if we share values, hate the same things, and make each other snort when laughing.
Digitally dating allows us to focus on the conversation instead of the fear of spaghetti spilling on our skinny jeans. It eliminates the showmanship of showing up in a velvet lamborghini instead of the back of an Uber Pool. It saves money, reduces anxiety, and gives us a perfect out if needed. All these benefits and can be done from your couch or toilet.
The Netflix of dating has arrived.
Let’s date!
Trey
My next 30 Day Adventure program starts June 1st. If you want to meet some new people, learn about yourself, and try a few weird things…join…
